Adult Children of Alcoholics

Adult Children of Alcoholics
ACOA | ACA | Adult Children

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The term “adult child” is used to describe adults who grew up in alcoholic or dysfunctional homes and who exhibit identifiable traits that reveal past abuse or neglect. The group includes adults raised in homes without the presence of alcohol or drugs. These ACA members have the trademark presence of abuse, shame, and abandonment found in alcoholic homes.

Quoted from adultchildren.org

 

The term “adult child” is used to describe adults who grew up in alcoholic or dysfunctional homes and who exhibit identifiable traits that reveal past abuse or neglect. The group includes adults raised in homes without the presence of alcohol or drugs. These ACA members have the trademark presence of abuse, shame, and abandonment found in alcoholic homes.

Quoted from adultchildren.org

 
Smooth seas do not make skillful sailors.African proverb
THE EFFECTS OF ADDICTION on ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS

Certain thoughts, behaviors and patterns naturally develop from being in relationship with someone who has addiction issues.  For example, you might be overly responsible to counteract irresponsibility.

Unfortunately, in the process of adapting to the person who has addiction issues, you lose connection with yourself.  Many areas of your life can be adversely effected. Maybe you have lost friends, stopped doing your favorite hobby, experience pain in your body, have difficulty sleeping, perhaps even stopped laughing.  I understand, these are all symptoms I have experienced too.

The following is a list of some common adaptations, coping skills or symptoms that Adult Children of Alcoholics experience. I invite you to read through it and see how many apply to you.  Know that you are not alone, nor are you broken. You have choices and it is possible to reclaim your life. I did and you can too.

 I DIDN’T CAUSE IT  .   I CAN’T CONTROL IT  .   I CAN’T CURE IT

 

God grant me the serenity 

to accept the things I cannot change,

the courage to change the things I can,

and the wisdom to know the difference.

Slogan and Serenity prayer from Al-Anon

I DIDN’T CAUSE IT
I CAN’T CONTROL IT
 I CAN’T CURE IT

 

The 3 Cs of Al-Anon

WHAT IS CODEPENDENCY?

Codependency is a term that means putting aside your needs in order to try to meet the needs of others.

“We attempted to use others – our mates, friends, and even our children, as our sole source of identity, value and well being, and as a way of trying to restore within us the emotional losses from our childhoods. Our histories may include other powerful addictions which at times we have used to cope with our codependence.

~ Quoted from CoDA. org

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I CAN HEAL

I CAN THRIVE

Click EMAIL or call 503.334.5492 for a Complimentary Meeting.